So--am I letting go of Amanda or is she slipping through my fingers? You all must be confused. I think I am too. All I know is that it's been a topic that comes up over and over again in my mind as we interact with my ten and a half year old daughter. It's not going away anytime soon.
She's been fairly good to this point about accepting my edicts about entertainment without question. However, as I wrote about today at the 5 Minutes for Books On Reading column, I am trying to let go. These are additional thoughts, so if you want the rest of the issue, please click on over.
I want to protect Amanda from "mature themes" and from attitudes that she might pick up in certain media (books and television and movies) that are contrary to our beliefs and values. She recently told me that she doesn't know why I'm so "strict" all of a sudden. Yes I may be strict about some things, but I'm really fairly permissive about many things (out of laziness more than a parenting philosophy).
I had already played offense on this one when another friend mentioned that her daughter has been asking about the Twilight series. I haven't read the series (yet), but from what I understand it's over-the-top in the mushy-gushy department. Yes, I am being "protective." I want to protect her emotions, her heart, and yes make sure that her s*x drive does not kick into overdrive before she's even in middle school! And for that matter, it makes me think that I wouldn't want a high school daughter who really does have a boyfriend dealing with all the yearning and burning either.
In spite of continuing to argue her case, she did tell me that her reading teacher, who is cool and beloved, banned Breaking Dawn from her class. She said that the others are fine, but she said that it made her blush, and so she didn't want it to be read in her classroom. She made a point to tell them that she didn't have any problems with the earlier titles.
I appreciate her making her thoughts known to these impressionable girls (who probably give her opinion more weight than their moms' words). I am glad to hear the support of another adult on part of this issue at least. I think it gave my opinion weight for Amanda to hear Ms. W. say the same thing.
What about you other moms of tweens? Are you facing similar issues? Do you have success tips to pass along?